I like to hop onto Quora every now and again and answer people’s questions about moving and living in new cities and countries. It helps me better articulate my thoughts on these subjects and generates ideas for my blog and future courses or books I might offer. I’m selective about which questions I actually answer, only chiming in when I think I might really be able to connect and help. If you haven’t been on the site before, check it out: www.quora.com anyone can ask and answer questions and topics range from practical advice to getting really into the weeds with philosophical questions. It’s easy to go off onto a tangent clicking interesting questions and reading the long threads of answers. After you spend some time on there, you’ll see that when people ask better questions, they get better answers.
Maybe there are no dumb questions, but there are poor questions.
There are a lot of questions that are asked poorly and you’ll see that they don’t get many answers, or worse they are attacked or mocked. I’m not talking about grammar or spelling, but when the question has no context that allows someone to reach out and give you what you really need. When asking questions, think about what kind of feedback you are really looking for. Consider the other person and meet them half way. Make it easy for them to give you what you want.
Example: Should I move to New York?
Ummm, the city? Somewhere else in the state? Are you going for a job, or following a loved one, or just looking for a change? Why? What’s your goal? What’s your budget?
How can anyone even start to answer this question in a way that truly will help the asker? Even if their question is sincere the barrage of follow-up questions and irritation from the answerers might make the asker feel rather under attack.
Ask a better question.
People are more willing and more able to help if you take them right to the problem spot.
A better version of that first question, as an example: I have a good job and friends in my hometown in the midwest but always dreamed of living in New York City someday. I have some savings and am confident I can get a similar job there but I’m worried because I won’t know anyone. Should I go for it? If you went through a similar situation I’d love to hear your advice.
Sometimes, through working out a better version of your question you actually organize your thoughts. This hypothetical person may not have realized that their anxiety really stems from fear of being lonely in her new city. Just in creating a better question she’ll uncover some answers.
Plus, in asking a better question you are targeting your answerers, the people who can talk to you about your specific problem.
Of course, this isn’t really about Quora, or any other online platform. In life, when we ask better questions, we get better answers, even when we are just asking ourselves the question.